Updated: Feb 15
Trust is one of the most difficult things these days. That is because people have been betrayed several times in the past by those they trusted, thus making it difficult for them to trust moving forward. If you want to have a successful relationship, you need to be trustworthy and also learn to trust your partner irrespective of what others have done to you before. Remember that a relationship without trust is like a car without fuel, it can’t move. How then can you build this fuel of relationships known as trust?
1. Let your words be in accordance with your actions.
The easiest way for anyone to develop trust in you is if you always keep to your word. If you repeatedly say one thing and do another, your partner will find it hard to trust you, even when other times you’re being sincere. As such, do not give them any reason to doubt you. If you do as you say then trusting you will be effortless. If for reasons beyond your control you end up not honoring your word, seek to make amends to show your partner how serious you are.
2. Establish and communicate clear boundaries.
It is important to establish clear and fair boundaries. Your partner needs to know what is allowed and what is not, and they should be consistent in enforcing these rules. If you clearly communicate your boundaries and your partner keeps breaking them and vice versa, it’s an indication that trust will be an uphill battle task in such a relationship.
3. Communicate honestly and openly
Another way to build trust in a relationship is by communicating honestly and openly. A trustworthy partner isn’t scared to share their feelings, thoughts, and concerns. They are not afraid to ask for help. They are also willing to listen to and respect the feelings of others. If you or your partner have huge misunderstandings every now and then, it is an indication that communication is lagging in your relationship and unless you work on that, trust will be difficult
4. Behave in an always-positive manner.
When you are positive, you are conveying that you believe in the relationship and will work to maintain it. This sends a message of strength and stability to your partner and demonstrates that you are committed to being positive and supportive.
5. Cultivate the habit of Listening attentively.
When you are listening, you are giving your partner the time and space they need to communicate their thoughts and feelings. This demonstrates that you respect them and are committed to understanding them. When you listen carefully, you may be able to identify issues that need to be addressed, which can help to build trust.
6. React positively to your partner’s mistakes.
When your partner makes a mistake, react in a supportive way. Let them know that you understand what they are going through and that you are committed to helping them improve. This will help your partner to be vulnerable to you which further builds trust because your partner will know that you won’t judge them for their mistakes. Rather you’re willing to help them learn and grow.
7. Be timely and responsive to your partner’s needs.
When you are timely and responsive, you are showing your partner that you care about them. That you’re willing to put their needs ahead of yours if need be. On the other hand, If you’re never there when your partner needs you, they’ll think that you’re not fully into the relationship, which makes trust harder.
People naturally build trust within relationships by behaving in ways that are consistent with the expectations they have for themselves and for others. We hope that these tips will help you to become a trustworthy partner, as well as cultivate mutual trust in your relationship to make it blissful. Are you experiencing issues with trusting your partner? Sign up for our coaching service and our certified coaches will guide you through letting go of whatever is holding you back from trusting and being trusted.
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