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How to Keep the SPARK in Your Marriage/Relationship

In this social media era, anytime you log on, you’re met with beautiful pictures of couples who are having beautiful moments and sharing with the world. Instead of feeling bad that you don’t have that, you can be motivated to make that happen in your relationship because everyone deserves happiness.


In the morning (onset) of marriage, everything usually seems perfect. However, as time goes by, work, other commitments and even lack of communication can make couples grow apart. It becomes a different ball game when children come into the equation because the attention is now divided between the kids and your partner. Whatever situation has caused you and your partner to grow apart, the good news is that there is something you can do to revive the spark in your relationship or marriage.

Here are some tips on how to keep the spark in your relationship.





1. Communicate effectively

Effective communication is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Communication is not just about talking, but also listening to each other’s thoughts, feelings, and concerns. Expressing your emotions, appreciating each other, and praising each other’s accomplishments would help to maintain the spark in your relationship. The absence of communication is the number one reason why couples fall apart.


2. Plan date nights regularly

Life gets busy, and you can easily let other responsibilities weigh down on your relationship or marriage. Date nights are a great way to revive the spark in your union. Planning date nights regularly can help you to break out of the routine and provide a chance to try new things together. Whether it’s trying out a new restaurant or going to a movie, making it a priority can help to bring back the excitement and fun in your relationship.





3. Travel together to keep the spark in your relationship

Taking some time off from work, the children, and other commitments, especially for those who love traveling will help in strengthening your bond. Traveling to new destinations is an incredible way to break routine and create life-long memories together. It enables you and your partner to experience new things and learn about each other’s likes, preferences, and personalities in new and exciting environments.


4. Do activities together

Aside from taking on new adventures, try taking part in activities that you enjoy as a couple. Whether it’s hiking, dancing, or attending a painting class, doing enjoyable activities together helps to strengthen your bond as you share experiences together. Introduce your partner to activities that you enjoy as an individual. If you like kayaking for instance, get your partner to join you. Also, learning how to do something new together builds your intimacy. For example, bake a cake together for the first time will be a fun activity.





5. Surprise each other

Who does not like surprises? Pleasant ones, of course. I bet everyone does. Throwing in some surprises into the relationship can help maintain the spark. Simple gestures like leaving a love note, buying a gift, or planning an unexpected weekend getaway, can make a big difference. Also, ensure that you know your partner well enough to surprise them in a way that they will appreciate. Don’t assume anything only to get disappointed at a cold reaction.



6. Continuously work on the relationship

Relationships take work and effort to keep the spark alive. Remembering why you fell in love in the first place and working to keep that love, respect, and admiration is essential. Continuously put in the work to maintain your relationship, appreciate your partner, and keep the flame burning.





7. Keep Learning about your partner

People change, and it’s crucial to keep learning about your partner. Ask them about their interests, their hopes, and dreams, and listen to their stories. Showing a genuine interest in your partner will keep the spark alive for years to come. Don’t act based on the assumption that they are the same person you met years ago, and so would the same taste and choices. You may be utterly disappointed.





Keeping the spark in your relationship or marriage is about learning how to love your partner the way they feel loved and not the way you think you can love them. Use these tips, along with your creativity, to keep the passion thriving and the flame burning. We're also available to guide you as needed. Just sign up for a FREE coaching session below. See you soon!




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