Imagine that you decide to go to college or university to obtain your law degree. You apply to a law school, and you’re immediately awarded a law degree. They then tell you that for the next 5 years which is the duration of the program, you’re free to show up for classes, assessments, and exams as you wish. Whether you show up or not, the law degree is yours. How serious will you be as a student? Will you attend any class? Will you take such a school seriously?
Let’s say you want to get a job. You apply to work at your dream company, and they tell you that the salary for the position is so and so and you’re expected to work “X” amount of hours weekly. You tell them the salary is too small to which they reply that you’re free to show up for work whenever you like. Regardless of whether you show up or not you get the full salary. Will you ever show up? Will you turn down such an offer? Of course not!
The above scenarios seem absurd, and you will never see such a thing in reality. Yet, that’s the mistake most ladies tend to make in relationships. The mistake is giving a man the benefits of being your husband when he is not your husband. Here’s the deal: In a relationship, men hold the key to security which is marriage while women hold the key to sex. It’s usually the man who decides when the relationship moves to marriage. It’s usually the woman who decides when sex happens. Men trade love to have sex while women trade sex to have love. It’s like a negotiation. Each party has what the other needs. When negotiating you shouldn’t show all your cards without getting what you need.
What usually happens is that women give in and have sex before marriage. Once that happens, you’ve drastically reduced the chances of him marrying you. I’m not saying it’s impossible but it’s unlikely. That’s because there’s nothing else really motivating him to commit to you. Why would he commit to marrying you to have sex when he can already sleep with you whenever he wants? It doesn’t just end there. You see a woman being a house wife for a man and doing all these domestic duties without being married to him. Then you’re hoping and praying that one day he will propose to you. You’re already giving him husband benefits so why should he? No one will buy a cow when they can get the milk for free.
If you find yourself in such a situation, we just want to encourage you that all hope is not lost. It’s possible to make things right. That’s why we’re here to guide you on the right track. It’s easier said than done. All you need to do is get started by booking a FREE coaching session with us below. We will hold your hand and lead you step by step on how to remove yourself from any complicated situations. Let’s help to position you to get the partner you desire. You too can have the marriage of your dreams and it starts by taking the step today to meet with us.
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