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Is He or She THE ONE for You to Marry?

Love is blind and marriage is the eyeopener.

I recently learned a heartbreaking event about a lady who was severely beaten to a pulp and hospitalized by her husband. By God’s Grace, she’s still alive at the time of writing this. However, her husband wasn’t held accountable for his actions. The most painful part about this is that she’s not willing to denounce her him. She would rather endure the constant abuse. There are countless others like her, male and female, all over the world dealing with domestic abuse. According to the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, 1 in 4 women and 1 in 9 men experience severe physical and sexual abuse from their intimate partners leading to injury, PTSD, fearfulness, STDs and more.


50% of first marriages end in divorce according to research. Second and third marriages have a much higher divorce rate with 67% and 73% respectively!  You would think that we would learn the lesson after the initial mistakes. One of the main reasons for this is that people rush into marriage without any preparation. They have no idea about the reality of marriage. They hardly get any counsel or coaching to help them in choosing a suitable spouse. Emotions cloud judgment. When you’re emotionally involved with someone, it's difficult to be objective and spot red flags.

Is he or she the one for you? How can you tell whether someone is right for you when you're "in love"? It’s possible to detect the signs of a potential abuser in marriage. While what the lady in the above story experienced is horrendous, the signs were there even before marriage. In every case of domestic violence, something always happens before marriage to indicate a potential abuser. If only this lady had sought counsel from a trusted 3rd party, they would’ve pointed her to those red flags. When you’re “in love”, it’s difficult to see clearly. As such we all need to get coaching or counseling before saying “I do.”


It becomes worse when people start having sex. Sex completely blinds people to believing they have a strong bond. That's why we all need a 3rd party to ask the right questions to uncover the truth about a relationship; and to determine if the person we're dating is the person we should marry. As the Bible says: "In the multitude of counselors there is safety." Coaching or counseling gives you the security you need in making one of the most important decisions in your life; the person to marry. It enables you to clearly answer the question: "Is he or she the one for you?"


Don't underestimate the cost of a bad marriage. On average, couples spend $7000 for divorce proceedings according to Forbes. This is nothing compared to the trauma of going through a divorce. Some people never recover from it. The fact is that society doesn’t look favorably on divorce and it’s more difficult to remarry as a divorcee. That doesn’t mean it’s impossible, but it’s just more challenging. I know what you're thinking: "My case will be different". The people currently going through a divorce said the same thing. Those dealing with domestic violence never once thought that they would be beaten often by the one they love. No one believes they're part of the statistics until they find themselves there. So, the question is: Would you rather risk it and spend $7000 getting out of a bad marriage or invest little or nothing now to get the coaching you need to make the right decision that'll increase your chances of success? Would you rather go in blindly or take the extra step to find out whether you’re dealing with a potential abuser? As a wise person, I’m sure you know what to do. Is he or she the one for you


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“But I’m married already, now what?” Counselling doesn’t end after the wedding. Married couples need regular counselling to have a healthy marriage. Just like your car needs frequent maintenance, so does your marriage. If you just keep driving your car for years while ignoring all the warning lights on the dashboard, one day it will break down, or worse you could die in an accident. People who go through divorce often wait until it’s too late to get help. A common myth is that therapy is only for problem marriages. Rather, therapy will help to address issues early enough to avoid problems in marriage. Do your marriage a favor and start coaching today. You have nothing to lose as you can start for FREE! Go ahead a book a session below and use the promo code, LOVE2024, at checkout to claim your FREE session!


We can’t wait to meet you. Thank you for reading and we hope you were enriched through this. Share to help your family and friends too. You probably know someone who is going through a difficult marriage or relationship. Bless them with this opportunity. Until next time, remain blessed. Is he or she the one for you Is he or she the one for you

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