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What He Says vs What He Really Means: Top 10 Things Men tell Women and what they mean.

Communication between individuals, regardless of gender, can be complex, and people's intentions and meanings may vary. In this day and age, it’s become more difficult to discern people’s true intentions when it comes to dating and relationships. “Is he really serious or does he just want to sleep with me?”, is a question women tend to have. It's essential to recognize that individuals are unique, and generalizations may not always hold. However, here are some common phrases that men might say to women and a potential interpretation, bearing in mind that these interpretations can vary widely based on the context and the individuals involved:


1. "Let’s go with the flow"

This is a vague statement which typically shows he’s not being serious. It’s a common sign of someone who’s not looking for a committed relationship or at least not looking for one with the listener. When a guy is serious, he will clearly define his intentions. A common mistake women make is to think that they can somehow get him to commit with time. Men are internally motivated and if he doesn’t see you as a potential wife, there’s nothing much you can do about it.

Deep down some women also want to be the one who changes a player. Knowing that she got him to commit to her while other women couldn’t, is a huge ego boost. But it hardly ever works out. She’ll end up getting played with like the rest. If he says, “Let’s go with the flow” or something similar like “Let’s just chill and have fun”, take his word for it and if you want that too, go ahead. But if you want a committed relationship, run for the hills. Top 10 Things Men tell Women


2. “She’s just a friend.”

This one is tricky because he could be sincere or not. This usually happens in a relationship when the guy has a female friend who is somewhat close to him. There are 4 possibilities here. The first one is that it’s just a platonic friendship with no feelings. In such a case, you need to let him know that you’re not comfortable with how close he’s with her. The second is that he secretly has feelings for his friend which he could be conscious of or not. He could be hoping that they’ll become more than friends. He could be using his girlfriend to get his friend whom he likes jealous.


Thirdly, his friend could be the one who has feelings for him. He could be oblivious to that or not. If he senses that his friend has feelings for him and he does nothing, then something is wrong. And lastly, they could both have feelings for each other either knowingly or not. You don’t want to find yourself in such a situation. These are all just possibilities and the only way to know is to have a conversation. Let him know how you feel about it and see what happens. If he is willing to consider your feelings and set boundaries, then good. Otherwise, you might want to rethink the relationship. Top 10 Things Men tell Women


Being in a committed relationship means putting your partner first before others. It's worth mentioning that the girlfriend could just be insecure and there’s nothing to it. She needs to dig deep within herself and find out why she feels that way.


3. "You look nice."

When a lady asks her partner, “How do I look?”, she usually expects a positive response. Most men know that since they’ve been burned when being honest about their opinions. So, when he says, “You look nice”, it’s not always sincere. He could mean that he appreciates his partner’s effort in dressing up. He could be saying it just to avoid trouble. Or it could be genuine. It’s like the famous question: “Do I look fat?”, or “Does this dress make me look fat?” Men dread having to answer that question. The key here is for ladies to be open to receiving honest feedback without being negative. If she always reacts negatively to his feedback, he’ll default to saying what she wants to hear.

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4. "I'll call you later."

Men are usually literal in their communication. If he says, “I’ll call you later”, it could mean what he says. It depends on the content and tone of the current conversation. If you were arguing, or in a fight, then it could mean that he’s not interested in continuing the conversation or the relationship. There’s a lot of vagueness in the statement and you can’t tell when “later” will be. There’s a high chance she won’t hear from him anymore. However, if they were having an interesting conversation but he had to leave for a good reason such as having an appointment, then he would probably call later. In such cases, he will be more precise with when she should expect the call. Top 10 Things Men tell Women


5. "Do you want to come over and watch a movie?"

This one is deep. It’s one of the few cases when men aren’t direct with what they want. When he says, “Let’s watch a movie together”, he could mean “I want to spend time alone with you in a more intimate setting.” There’s a high chance that he’s trying to sleep with her. What better way to do it than to set the right environment with a good “chick flick” (movies that appeal to women usually with a romantic/sentimental theme and a female lead character). Before saying “yes” to that she should be prepared and ready for that possible outcome. If she’s practicing abstinence, then it would be safer to avoid it altogether.


6. "I'm not looking for anything serious right now."

This is very typical for a player to say. Ladies need to take their word for it when men say this. When he says that, he likely means “I enjoy your company but I’m not ready for a serious commitment”. But he won’t mind sleeping with her. If you want that too, it's all good. But, if you want a committed relationship, that’s your cue to leave. Top 10 Things Men tell Women


7. "I need some space."

If a man has to say this, then things are getting rough. It usually happens when he is overwhelmed by her nagging and complaining. Men need peace of mind. The Bible says: “It's better out in the desert than at home with a nagging, complaining wife.” (Proverbs 21:19 CEV) When he says that he means: “I feel overwhelmed and need time to think or process my emotions.” This will usually be a red flag for men during the dating phase. If the nagging continues, he will end up leaving for good. Or it could be just that he needs time to cool off to avoid things from escalating.


8. "You're overreacting."

Men are more logical while women are more emotional. He can be clueless when it comes to decoding her feelings. If he analyzes the situation logically and sees that there’s no big deal, he will think that she’s overreacting. “You’re overreacting” usually means “I don’t think your reaction matches the situation.” In truth, she could be overreacting. It’s also possible that there’s something deeper going on within her. Women tend to expect men to read their minds. Men aren’t mind readers. As a lady, you’re better off expressing your feelings clearly for him to understand. Top 10 Things Men tell Women


9. "Let's just be friends."

This is one of the most undesirable statements to hear when you have feelings for someone. Guys do it, ladies do it. No one likes being “friend-zoned”. When a guy says: “let’s just be friends”, he usually means it. He’s not interested in a romantic relationship with you and there’s nothing much you can do about it. Accept it for what it is, maintain your dignity, and move on.


10. "I'll take care of it."

Men like being in control. They don’t like being told what to do, especially when it’s adversarial. Men fight for everything they get in life. If he says, “I’ll take care of it”, it could mean “I’ll handle it my way; I don’t need your assistance.” This tends to happen when he’s confronted or when his partner blatantly disagrees with his idea. At that point, he sees her as the enemy and will fight rather than accept what she says no matter how wrong he is. If you want him to listen, you must show that you are on his side. Agree with what he says first and then tactfully offer suggestions or ask inspiring questions that will get him to evaluate his approach. Remember, confrontation will hardly work.


Again, it's crucial to remember that these interpretations are not universal and can vary based on individual experiences, communication styles, and contexts. Communication is complex, and understanding someone's true intentions often requires open and honest dialogue. To learn more about whether “He truly loves you”, check out THIS VIDEO below.

What do you think about this list? How many of these phrases have you heard or said yourself and why? Are there other common phrases men say to women that we didn’t mention? Let us know in the comments. We hope you were enriched through this. Go ahead and share it with your loved ones too. Also, SUBSCRIBE to our channel for more content on love, relationships, and marriage. Thank you for reading and until next time, remain blessed.

Top 10 Things Men tell Women

Top 10 Things Men tell Women

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