Updated: Jun 7
It’s never easy to break up with someone you think you love, but sometimes it’s the best thing you can do for yourself. Maybe you’re at a point where you’re looking for reasons not to break up. Maybe you want marriage so badly that you’re overlooking issues. You’re not deceiving anyone but yourself. If you’re considering breaking up with someone, there are probably some red flags you’ve been noticing. Here are a few reasons why you should break up with someone even though you think you love them:
1. They’re never there for you.
Perhaps you’re in that kind of relationship in which your partner is always cool when all is going well. The moment they notice, or you tell them that you have a problem, they start distancing themselves from you. If your partner is always too busy or never makes time for you, especially in your down moments, they’re not worth your time. A relationship should be a two-way street, and if your partner isn’t willing to put in the effort, it’s time to move on.
2. They’re constantly arguing with you.
Misunderstandings are part of every normal relationship, but there’s a limit to what’s normal. If your partner is ALWAYS arguing with you, it’s a sign that they’re incompatible with you. When someone doesn’t love you, they turn every conversation into a fight. Constant fighting is not healthy for either of you, thus, it’s better to end things now than to drag it out.
3. They’re always making you feel bad about yourself.
If your partner is always putting you down or making you feel inferior, they’re not worth your time. No one deserves to be treated that way, and you’re better off without someone who makes you feel bad about yourself. No matter how much of a healthy self-esteem you’ve got, negative words can always get through to you. If your partner who’s supposed to make you feel good about yourself uses derogatory terms on you, you’ll start having second thoughts about yourself. Do not wait for them to make you insecure before you leave the relationship.
4. You don’t feel happy around them.
If you’ve ever truly been in love, you’d know how your heart jumps in excitement when you know you’re going to meet the one you love. When you love someone, and they love you too, your time together is a beautiful moment every single time. If you’re not happy when you’re around your partner, there’s a high chance that something is wrong. If you don’t have fun with them or you’re unable to be yourself, it’s time to end things.
5. You don’t trust them.
Some people say trusting a partner is putting yourself at risk of a heart attack because they can betray you at any time. But when it comes to genuine relationships, if you can’t trust your partner, there’s no point in continuing the relationship. Trust is key in any relationship, and if you don’t trust your partner, it’s only going to lead to problems. If they constantly give you reasons not to trust them, it’s an indication that you’re wasting your time.
6. They’re always making you feel guilty.
If your partner is always making you feel guilty, they’re probably not worth your time. Nobody should have to feel guilty for spending time with their friends or family. If your partner makes you feel guilty for doing the things you love just because they can’t possibly be part of every activity you partake in, it is a red flag. This is an indication that they’ll try to cut you off from anything in your personal life should you both get married. The earlier you end such a relationship, the better for you.
7. Your genotypes do not match.
Ever heard of the saying “love is not enough”? That's very true when it comes to genotype incompatibility. Genotype incompatibility is a scientific term that means that the genes of two people do not match up. In other words, their DNA is incompatible. This can cause all sorts of health problems for the couple's children, especially sickle cell anemia. The most common genotypes are AA (normal), AS (Carrier), and SS (sickle cell patient). It is therefore not wise for two people who are in love to have children together if their genotypes are incompatible. In fact, it would be best for you both to break up if you both have plans of having children. It’s not recommended for two people who are both AS to marry. To learn more about genotypes and compatibility, we encourage you to read this article where we dive deeper into the subject.
If you have tried to work through these issues, but they continue to persist, it may be time to call off the relationship. As hard as it might seem, especially if they have other good qualities that make you still want to be with them, the earlier you leave the better. Remember, you deserve to be happy and in a healthy relationship. If you’re unsure whether or not to continue with someone, we’re here to guide you. Go ahead and SIGN UP for a FREE coaching session. See you soon!
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